After yesterday’s post I received several comments regarding how to keep names straight when dating more than one person. Thank you, but that wasn’t quite what I meant. Although Karen’s suggestion to call all men “Tiger” was very helpful, and Jonolan? I’m just worried.
Upon reflection I suppose my real question is this: is it reasonable to expect ourselves to date multiple people at once, keeping it light? Most people would agree it’s a good idea, but not many date this way, do they? Why not?
Does casually dating several people at once run counter to our emotional instincts? I think we know fairly quickly when we really like someone, and we naturally focus on them. Others would become extraneous at this point, and we’d really need to push ourselves to continue dating them.
But it’s at that very moment, the moment we’d begin to focus on one, that dating more than one person would be good for us; it would diversify our attention, causing us to slow down and not get swept away with our feelings. And no one keeps dating multiple people at that point, do they?
Dating multiple people seems to be something which can be kept up for more than a few dates only if we aren’t very interested in any of them. In which case, why are we still seeing them?
It’s all so confusing.